You are much ahead of me, Time figuring this out in 8 years. It took me over 40 years. Kudos. You articulated your points so clearly with raw emotions in 7 minutes. I wrote a similar piece which took me 20 minutes to articulate my points. I give a friend link for those interested in my findings.
Your stories serves like a litmus test for me, Tim. I agree with every word you said in this exceptional story. Your observations are spot on and I admire your honesty. Truth hurts but is necessary.